All of us at one time or another have had our feelings hurt and as a result have felt resentment or perhaps even anger towards the one who has hurt us. But what most of us don't realize is that when we're feeling this resentment or anger, we're creating a powerful thought-form that actually psychically and energetically links us to the other person in a negative, lower-astral way. And that causes us to feel miserable whenever we think of that person. So letting go of resentments and hurt feelings is a very powerful way of freeing our selves from harmful thought-forms and moving forward spiritually.
So how do we forgive? It's actually rather easy. We go into our hearts and silently pour love to that person and say, "I forgive you." We may need to do this on and off for a number of days, weeks, months or years, until we feel that there's no longer a feeling of resentment inside of us. But the sooner we start trying to forgive, the sooner we will get to the place where we actually are forgiving them, and then we will be free of those destructive thought-forms that negatively link us to that individual.
Sometimes, even though we are trying really hard to forgive someone, we're not able to forgive them completely right away. And it's possible to forgive someone and still feel hurt inside for what they've done. Sometimes it will take years for the hurt to gradually fade away. But the sooner we start working on forgiving someone, the better. :)
One way of measuring how successful we are in forgiving others, is to be aware of how much compassion, love and joy we're feeling when we're forgiving them. The more compassion, love and joy, the more successful we are. And once we've completely forgiven someone, we will feel a wonderful feeling of relief and buoyancy. It's as if we've been held down in a darker, unhappier place, and now we've been released and we are raised into a much happier and freer consciousness.
Forgiveness is even a greater blessing for the one who is doing the forgiving, then it is for the one who is being forgiven, because it frees us from a very negative, self-destructive feeling within ourselves that keeps us from more fully feeling the joy and bliss of our Mother-Father GOD's love within us. It also frees us from an inner discordant connection with that person and transforms the connection into a clean, friendly one, that isn't self-destructive.
Most people are unaware that the Ascended Master Saint Germain has brought us a very great gift to help us in forgiving others. It is called the "Violet Consuming Flame" and is extremely important for freeing ourselves from any resentment or thought-forms that are holding us back. Click here to learn more about this wonderful Transmuting Flame Of Loving Forgiveness. And please go here if you are already familiar with the idea of the Violet Flame and would like to use a daily Violet Flame Meditation.
True forgiveness is a feeling of the heart. It might be very difficult to feel this feeling, because we are feeling so hurt, injured, or upset, but with time we can soften these hurt and upset feelings and get more in touch with a genuine feeling of forgiveness and loving kindness towards the other person. Eventually, with patience, kindness and sincere effort, we can even forgive what even seems to be "unforgivable".
There is nothing that can not be forgiven by ourselves and our Mother-Father GOD. Somethings just take longer than others. And once we've forgiven them, we feel so free inside! It is like a weight being lifted off us! And if we are the ones that need to be forgiven, then we just need to be truly sincere, and then change our attitude and behavior so that we don't do such things again in the future. And of course we need to try to correct any harm that has been done - if that is the part of wisdom. Sometimes, if someone has really hurt another person deeply, then perhaps the hurt person would prefer not to see the one who hurt them. In that case it might be inappropriate to go to them to directly help them in a one-to-one manner. But they can always pray for the welfare, spiritual blessings and illumination of the person they hurt.
Perhaps one of the most compelling examples of forgiveness is when Jesus was hanging on the cross looking down at the people who had just cruelly and a heartlessly crucified him and he said,
"Forgive them Father, they know not what they do."
Such amazing compassion and forgiveness! And since Jesus also taught,
"All these things that I do, you too shall do, and greater things than these you shall do."
that means that we too have within us that same compassion and ability to forgive that Jesus demonstrated on the cross. We just need to reach deep into our hearts and bring it forth.
Jesus said that the more we forgive others, the more we are forgiven:
"For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."
- Matthew 6:14-15 (NIV)
'Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times." '
- Matt 18:21-22 (NIV)
It's also important for us to forgive ourselves, too. It doesn't do any good to pound our selves with self-condemnation. What's important is to: 1) realize we've made a mistake; 2) sincerely change our ways; 3) pray for the people we may have hurt; and 4) if it's appropriate, make amends to the person we've hurt.
For, instance, sometimes we've done something which we later regret. We just didn't realize at the time how much harm would come from it. We were ignorant of the real consequences. In this case we can ask for forgiveness and forgive ourselves because we acted out of ignorance. Then we need to live in such a way that we help to undo the harm we have set into motion.
In other words, sometimes we might not be fully forgiven until, in some way or another, we have "righted the wrong", which we have committed. Fortunately we can sometimes right this wrong through prayer and by silently sending the person divine love and blessing from our hearts; or perhaps we can apologize to them; or perhaps physically help them out in some way; or we can pray that we help them from the higher realms when our physical bodies are at sleeping at night; and we can always help them from the higher realms when we are in between lifetimes; and of course if we've earned the Ascension, then we can help them from the Ascended Realms as an Ascended Being.
It's best to forgive, not only because it is the right thing to do, but just as importantly it is simply because forgiveness is what does the most good. Anger, resentment, hatred and other forms of emotional violence are not only self-destructive, but these violent emotions which are destructive to the very nature of humanity and can set up roadblocks to any sort of permanent solutions that can later come forth.
Does forgiving someone mean that we should now be able to trust them. Absolutely not! They may not be trustworthy. But we can still forgive them.
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May Your Life Be Filled With the Bliss of Loving Kindness and May You Spread It Far and Wide!!!
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